Chapter 6;Values

In the two decades that I have co-existed with fellow mortals in this world I have come to develop certain inferences on how to relate with one another.

Having not yet mentioned any relations with my paternal parent I wanted to reserve this post for him.The values imparted by the man were unrivaled.
While he imparted many for instance humility,kindness and contentment,discipline was the key. However firmly it was administered. He clearly distinguished between being brought up and being left to grow.He believed in "kukulisa wewe kiboko" which is loosely translated as your arse in fellowship with the cane. It did not matter where he finds you when he discovers your shortcomings. Yes in the presence of your friends,at the bus stop,in church anywhere.
I will admit that more values are yet to be assimilated as I continue living this life. In so far as I'm convinced the following apply across all beliefs,cultures and any form of setting and situation that homo sapien sapiens are present.

1. Candor  

Never would my old man say something behind anyone's back. It hardly mattered whether your thoughts were in unison.He had a dagger approach to issues and would not shy away from expressing an opinion. In society sorry to say we have lots of people who kiss serious ass.I have a grave yard of bones to pick with the media.The fraternity has gone to bed with politicians forsaking the crucial role the fourth estate is empowered to perform.If any of them had strapped on a pair Kenya would not have been high up on the list of failed states.Corruption,nepotism,fraud in public institutions is neatly tucked away by these fellows.My list is not in any way exhaustive and it takes no genius to join the dots.

     2. Charity/Philanthropy

In the household that I was raised,If you were not willing to share then you were not part of the family.The resources always satisfied the members regardless of their abundance.Sadly that is not the spirit in society today.This is fueled by the maxims of capitalism.Scholars may argue that socialism restricts growth and personal development.So I pose my question, which is the lesser evil?? A communist setting would be in my opinion economical and equitable as opposed to a capitalist one where there's  unquantifiable wastefulness and disparity in lifestyle.Why would we have a frenzy of activity and channeling of money to funds that feed the starving in various parts of the world? It beats logic that turnover of corporates is in billions of dollars while a few million human beings face death by starvation.In the current situation we find ourselves in since we chose the selfish way of life,,philanthropy should not only be a value but there should be some form of legislation that pegs some sort of percentage on the incomes of  companies towards the less privileged.

    3.Responsibility and Family

Easy.If a man has any issue{legal term for offspring} he has all legal and moral obligation to take care of it.I will not go into the nitty gritty details of how my father managed to raise us but if its any consolation I would only say that the means were all legitimate. How many single parents are there not because the father is deceased but for the simple reason that the coward took off?? What should stop a man from fending for his family if the a hyena does despite its reputation of being cruel and calculating.Tafakari hayo

    4.Hardwork and fairness

Hardwork pays.But it is never enough.Humans lack the virtue of contentment.This results to unfairness.A man who's father is unknown will not secure his dream job to boost a career that has cost an arm and leg to build.The creed of intensity integrity and intelligence has long been eroded and reduced down to who has more qualitative advantage than the other.Sweat and blood will not get you anywhere simply because you have the wrong genes and are not a son of the village chief or a seasoned politician.You can dress a goat and and trace it to the lineage of so and so and get along this life.

    5.Tolerance

People are diverse.Cultures,beliefs.traditions,religions,race et al.
I have come to learn that we will never worship the same god,never agree on whether living a chaste life is wrong or right,whether it is acceptable for one to hug their mother-in-law,whether black people are pre-disposed to chicken,whether white women can dance or whether some men  prefer to be the ones in the wedding gowns.But we all have one thing in common. We are human so the only thing we should exercise is tolerance and mutual respect for life and property.

Chapter;5 On The Cusp Of Suicide

In my life time I have rubbed shoulders with death and this is my attempt at de-mystifying it.This was done a while back when I was hit with the news that a former friend of the family had taken his own life........THE BIG QUESTION SHOULD BE WHY NOT?? ISN'T IT A BETTER WAY TO FACILITATE THE MEETING WITH YOUR MAKER??

Dangling on a rope 6 ft off the ground.
My destination is 6ft into the ground.
A million thoughts cross my mind,should I or should I not.....

Orphaned by h.i.v I turned to you.
Only for your ignorance to slap me in the face.
You thought my helpless tear cud infect you.
Off to hell I join my promiscuous parents.
Sorry to say your daughter is expecting my son.........

Pastor, you dislike my affiliation to death metal.
My godfather u were when my parents paid tithe.
You conveniently missed their funeral then.
You tell me the devil is a liar.
I'd rather lose my soul than worship your hypocritical god..........

I have fat thighs,flabby arms and a potbelly but I recall u loved me for who I was.
Lipo-suction has become my lifestyle,
yet u spot a new roll of cellulite on me each morning.
Now that I am about to depart,honey,I think I cleaned your bank account..........

Food supplements right,left and centre.
but you still compare me to VIN DIESEL and make fun of my visible ribs..
signing the pre-nup was to your detriment since I'm leaving my estate to charity..........

Disapproving looks I get from society.
Since my sexual orientation beats the norm.
We were created by the same god.
So why shud he condemn me for his faults?
After all Im his image and likeness..........

Wankstas are branded perverts.
While priests are married to their palms.
Abstinence isn't in existence and neither is faithfulness.
Condoms are ineffective yet my hormones are effervescent.
I'll fix myself up with the lotion,criticize me and see if I care.............

SOCIETY,THESE PEOPLE ARE ON THE VERGE OF SUICIDE,ALL THEY NEED IS THE VOICE OF REASON.....WHO IS UP TO TASK???

Chapter 4; Men Are Men And Women Will Never Understand

A woman that has been around for a while will always have this question on their minds.
"Why are men so cruel?" "How can they do such evil and turn a blind eye and don't feel a thing?""Why do men cheat?" "Why do men hit women?"
We'll I.M.O {In my opinion} ,sorry old people if this lingo has passed you then you're a little over the hill,women made us that way.

Do not blame us. Blame the so called feminists band wagon.
Growing up,things were simple. Men were the wearers of the pants in the society. In Africa the family was not the basic unit,though some scholars may choose to differ.
A man was the following:

1. The pillar
2. The disciplinarian
3. The fixer
4. The prosecutor and judge.

Just to mention a few roles.
Ok if there are any ladies reading this then my apologies for the following remarks.
Feminism is utterly and in every sense of the word BOLLOCKS.However chauvinist I may sound,in fact methinks this word was invented along with the agenda of "emancipation of the girl-child"
Walk with me and let me make you understand.This is the paradox of gender equality.If it is indeed true then:

1. We should be allowed knuckle up.I fail to understand why if my wife hits me and I reciprocate, I risk dropping the soap in the prison showers doing time prescribed by F.I.D.A.
2. She should support me when I'm unemployed.Do that in this time and age and you are comfortably labeled a BUM.
3. I should hop onto the bus and expect you to catch up.Do that and during her next "self-help" meeting they discuss the deficit of gentlemen in society.
4. The provision that 30% of legislative seats be reserved be abolished.Rise to say that and they will make noise and wake the ancestors.
5. I should call you any time my car swaps paint with another.Do that and someone anonymously calls Classic fm breakfast show and alas you are the talk of the town

Well then to answer the questions posed above.Men will always be men firstly because we can and secondly because feminism has opened our eyes.
When you lose dominance nothing should stop you from thinking that you are irreplaceable.
Chris Rock once joked that when you are laid off as a man the woman will be there to comfort you alright. She'll say, "honey we'll just have to get rid of some things and we'll be fine."
SHE'S TALKING ABOUT YOU